It appears that this phenomenon is growing and becoming even more common everywhere in the US church. Im amazed that we arent using the most recent conference materials . One thing I would add is that somehow we need to stop telling LDS women that they need to do everything in 6 days and 90% income with smiles on their faces and do it better than their non-LDS peers. I am 70 years old and have never been a mother, but I had one. I'd had a challenging morning, but somehow, my 3-year-old-daughter was decked out and ready for church on time. Mother's Day: My talk | Times & Seasons It is awkward for those who are NOT mothers and I don't think fathers get their due comparibly. Our new bishop, for the last three years, gave no gift or acknowledgement. I do think it is easy to understand my point and I appreciate it when others understand my position. I must speak the loving word, Aleah Ingram There are a number of other conference talks on the subject (righteous traditions, family traditions, etc.). This ordinance is an essential part of worship and spiritual development. That wouldn't let her do such and suchall things in the end that weren't good for her daughter to do, one way of looking at it. With that in mind, there are great ideas in this discussion thread of ways to do exactly that. Mormon women are harder on themselves than any other group of ladies I have associated with. And dont even get me started on the Are We Not All Mothers tripe. It might be that it was a holiday originally conceived by the US Socialist Party and propagated by the Soviets. Ohand did you say you had an extra ticket??? I love her and think she did a great job with the limited resources she had. Available Now: 2023 Temple Calendar. Then they would close by saying that it was the most wonderful blessing imaginable. And, invariably, as soon as I would send one on his way, Im not a mother, thank you, another would pop up at my elbow, dutifully, kindly twisting the knife. lesson about prayer. Ugh. I know I dont have any say on when the thread closes, but it would be interesting to hear feedback from how each persons respective wards handled MD, and how the people assigned to talk felt their messages were delivered and/or received. The second is about a mother who diligently loved her son as he struggled with same-sex attraction and labored him through his despair. Maybe, eventually, I will heal and that will change. . Since my husband gets to give Sacrament meeting is for honoring and remembering the Savior, its not Fathers Day or Mothers Day, its the Saviors Day! I actually gave two sacrament meeting talks on Mothers Day during our childless/infertile years. 30 Inspiring LDS Quotes About Mothers & Motherhood, Church Leaders Honor Mothers Over the Holiday Weekend, Church Releases Tribute to Mothers, You Are Enough, FREE Happy Mothers Day Coloring Page Printable, The Family is a Divine Blessing | 6 March 2023, Come Follow Me Recap Thy Faith Hath Saved Thee | 5 March 2023, Miracles Come Through Fasting | 4 March 2023, Young Latter-day Saint Missionary Passes Away in Georgia, 5 Things You Didnt Know About the Day the LDS Church Was Organized. Gag. A year later he died in a car accident, and the children went back to mom, whose life was now very different. Over the years, Ive heard some very good Mothers Day talks, but I have also heard some that were cringe-worthy. However, Uchtdorf also gets women and articulates that better than most. Again, its about building testimony and gaining faith. Any Advice? Why? I could send you a PDF of the sheet music, but it's probably too late now for your choir and Primary to prepare in time for Mother's Day. Fun Photos of Latter-day Saint Leaders in the Snow! I figure maybe in the next life I will be someones Heavenly Mother. Latter Day Arrangements is a sheet music resource for members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and other Christians. Latter-day Saints to Attend Sacrament Meeting Only on Christmas Day Im grateful for it. If youre already perfect, who needs it? It is based only partially on a professional clergy with access to time-proven messages and more likely on fundamental theological differences. Thank you for writing this blog post. We all do., The relationship between mothers and daughters is at the heart of this talk from Elder Ballard. The first speaker was a single father, then the bishop spoke, then the stake president spoke. It worked well in my ward, I think. Our current Bishop decided not to do anything for mothers day. No talk is necessary, but a simple acknowledgement of our love for all the women in our lives is nice. My worst MD talk came in the Fast and Testimony meeting the week before in which my father, who was visiting since he no longer lived in our ward, decided to give some incredibly intimate details about his divorce and why he blamed it on several of his children, but not others. The deacons hand out small potted plants to all women 12+ years, then the sisters eat cake in Relief Society (served up by the RS presidency.). My own dear mother, long since gone to her reward, summed up the essence of the perfect Mothers Day talk quite nicely. Nothing, wakes people up in sacrament meeting like talking about chimpanzees dismembering each other. I actually think its good to celebrate both Mothers and Fathers Days with the caveat to be sensitive to the feelings of those who have difficulty with that celebration. Im asking this out of genuine curiosity/responsibility for handing stuff out. Which meeting do you think would be more meaningful to the participants? Have a young child, a teenager, husband and elderly father take you through the different phases of motherhood in their own point of view. Someone explain this. I think this can be especially true for women who feel theyre just holding on. Or the best of both worldssend all women to RS and have the chocolate there so you get the women to walk through the door instead of to their cars, and so the kids arent begging for it? It was part of the talk. I haven't a clue about how to interact at times. Yes! In my home ward, we once had a Mothers Day Sacrament Meeting the topic of which was the priesthood. At a certain point, their best has to be enough. I get fed up listening every year to only men saying how wonderful their wives and mothers are. Not using individual's names, I told stories of selfless service performed by sisters in our ward that I had observed during my time as bishop. Yea like all of you My Mother sucked too. Its hard for those without children, who are likely never to have children, to listen to motherhood talks that don't address their situation. Latter-day Saint Life. Drunk as he could be. Julie B. Beck reminds women what it means to be a mother who knows listing a number of attributes, including the principles of bearing children, honoring sacred covenants, nurturing others, doing less, teaching, and leading. If you take one thing away from this not-so-scientific survey, it is, when in doubt, go with chocolate. Elder Ballard lists three ways mothers can do that; first, is realizing joy comes in moments, second is to not overschedule children, and third, to find time to cultivate talents and interests. I was reading about the origins of Mothers Day. 34 Ideas for LDS Sacrament Meeting Talks When People Don't Apologize: Forgiving and finding reconciliation with God Would borrow from Forgiveness + Tribulation, a talk I gave fall 2019. 10 years after my first child was born, I still detest Mothers Day. That said, I cant say I recall ever hearing a bad Mothers Day talk. They really did. This talk by Elaine S. Dalton helps fathers understand the importance of loving and cherishing the women in their life. Why are women so disenchanted with motherhood when we value it so highly? I am not sure what other words I can use to convey my meaning when I rely so heavily on tone. You can still give the women the day off. The US holiday was only adopted in 1870 and was also used to protest the sacrifices mothers had made when their sons were killed at war or killed the sons of other mothers during the Civil War. Sometimes its good, sometimes its bad. . At one point they cut down a tree and paraded it into town to symbolize the mother of the Gods (Asherah, anyone?). I dont know why that would be, unless people are just assuming we ache for something more to nurture. Why in the church is there such a strong, almost secular aversion to motherhood? Not within an hour of reading this post did I get a call from a member of our bishopric asking me to speak on Sunday. Thank you. What to Expect at Latter-day Saint Church Services Maybe Ill get a pizza and tell the kids to cook it for breakfast when Sunday morning comes. Love for mothers is good, but sometimes there is a fine, fine line between love and dysfunction. I love that song but our ward music coordinator has musical numbers lined up already. Does this mean that finally..a talk could be about our Heavenly Mothers? All women were given a 'present' which looked like a flower or something, I didn't inspect it; many men and women took extra ones to give to any mother or lady in the neighborhood, single, mother, any sister or non member. Mothers Day Sacrament Meeting: Impossible to Win This talk was named after a phrase from Victor Hugo who gave all her food to her children, not because she is not hungry, but because she is a mother. Elder Holland talks about the central role motherhood plays in the gospel of Jesus Christ and gives many principles of comfort and courage for mothers who may be struggling. What are we trying to create? Print out the short questionnaires included in the printable and distribute them to the mothers in your ward a few weeks before Mother's Day. Alma 56:47-48. The perfect hymn for Mothers Day Sacrament meeting. Sacrament Meeting - The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints I think Emma and Naomi are very neglected women in our teachings (understatement considering the general neglect). Measure your words with that assumption in mind. What a nice gift for a Mom..hey, you guys have a great time!! I would love to avoid Mothers Day meetings, just because they are usually tedious, but I love to go for the sake of seeing my kids sing. All We know very little about HM and HF really. And home teachers were not comfortable giving flowers or candy to a single sister. Over 70 countries observe Mothers Day, but some of them still retain these spiritual roots whereas in the US its mostly a commercial holiday. I mean big ol gnarly wretch. LDS Hymn Arrangements - Latter Day Arrangements This reflects a very different image than the one we portray to the world about our values and what we say means the most to us. This has been a great reminder to be sensitive to all in the congregation with the Holy Ghost as a guide. Thanks for all your thoughts. I have work enough to do, Steve P, She was not worthy of any review from me. My favorite Mothers Day talk was my own talk. I love your idea of wearing different color of flowers. If you want to deal in rose-colored platitudes, you are probably gunning for the high council, so save it until then. Just to be clear - I meant 'written/given' by women (aka musical number "O My Father" written by Eliza R Snow, conf talk by Reeve/Oscarson/Okazaki). She used several stories from the NT about Christ & his mother Mary to illustrate principles that we can all use to improve our relationships with others. This is something better done away with. Gospel Q&A: Can Satan Hear Our Prayers? Sacrament - The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints His explanation was not to offend any sister. You wouldnt give a talk in a single adult ward about the joys of scouting. It makes my heart sad to see that the men arent recognized and given something however small it may be. Just sharing those times with women in the scriptures and what we can learn from them - and NOT have a focus on mothers. Thank you. I just dont like when they push the plant on me after Ive politely declined it. we have never ceased head-shaking about his, well, completely horrific timingand choiceoif topicand general ignorance and intolerance (and sheer bovine stupidity). Yeah, it would be pretty late to be thinking about music now. Not at church anyway. Cannot load blog information at this time. Also, try to remember that not all the women in the congregation are mothers - which may be because they can't be. But Ive also read this: 40 Behold, ye are little children and ye cannot bear all things now; ye must grow in grace and in the knowledge of the truth. Perhaps the reason so many women have an aversion to an all Sacrament Mtg. Most threads die a natural death. Please Please Please! Diabetic others, for example. We also have free LDS program covers and printable LDS program covers you can print off at home. Im not going tomorrow. Why do *we* have to have an ideal? Mothers Day was pure torture and the only time I ever serious entertain thoughts of staying home. A BIGTHANK YOU to Heather Mecham for compiling all the results from this survey. Dont take us out of Primary to go eat Treats! Saw the survey and didnt reply, but one suggestion-Please have enough for EVERY female in the ward or branch. However, I am concerned about the implications of a people where the female population dislikes the concept of motherhood or at least dislikes it enough that they do not want to celebrate Mother's Day. Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Gospel Q&A: Do We Really Have the Spirit With Us All the Time? One of her favorites: Im so bad when daddy comes home, It is not a bad thing and it might be the one day that young mothers will remember and enjoy the most. Talk topics could be: - examples in the scriptures (Eve, Ruth, Naomi, Esther, Sarah, Mary, Sariah, etc), - early Saints (Lucy Mack, Emma, Eliza R Snow, Aurelia Rogers, etc), - influence of (teachers, nurses, aunts, grandmas, etc). Ugh.chocolate and cheescake.and NO TALKS!!! Thank you to everyone! Clap my hands and shout for joy! It was designed with ward choirs and Sacrament Meeting musical numbers in mind. I Know I would like Mothers Day more if they changed the official hymn of the day from Love at Home to this one (to be sung from the perspective of the mother): 1. We are confabbing about how to turn the tables on Hallmark. Our ward always does flowers, right after Sacrament meeting, and this is a real problem for me because of my allergies. Primary kids singing, oh, 12 songs, and then someone real standing up and talking about the incredible power of hope, even when we feel that we dont measure up, and the wonder of the atonement and Gods love for us. Now they never had fought, yet they did not fear death; and they did think more upon the liberty of their fathers than they did upon their . Avoid speaking of angel mothers. I dont envy you people who have been called togive talksnext week. We need ideals especially ones who arent ideal, so we can redefine ideal. All women should strive to be strong, and can become strong. Not wordingthat well. In the same way, when we make a dramatic production of Mothers Day, I fear that we are sometimestrying to compensate for the way we devalue the real and important work they do on the other 364 days of the year. Jana Riess: LDS Church's slow shift away from demonizing working mothers Members have now learned to accept it. I have an aversion to bringing my family's celebration intochurch and causing other women pain. The average of the survey said their bishopric probably spends about $1 per sister for Mothers Day gifts. Uchtdorf. So He can be ideal AND real. Primary kids sang Im so glad when Mommy comes home refreshing change. Pres Hinckley and apparently Mark has it right. Personally, I go to church to learn about Jesus and Christ like attributes. President Eyringonce said that when he meets somebody for the first time, he assumes that person is struggling mightily with an intractable problem, and cannot see any possible solution. But I certainly enjoyed the beauty of the whole situation and was very glad to see so many young peole in the Church on Sunday. I meant to type rebellious children in #90. In the mean time, please, PLEASE, dont go hunting the sisters. 2. Mothers Day theme, is the spirit is trying to witness to us at what a dumb idea it is. I am glad you had a good father, but honestly, that attitude is what keeps me away. Integrate how Jesus takes care of his mother's future well being while hanging on the cross with the scripture John 19:26-27. Why Women, Especially Mothers, Working Outside the Home is an Abomination Unto the Lord. Latter-day Saint pianist Monica Scott has arranged a touching Mother's Day medley in honor of Stephanie Pope, a mother of five who recently passed away . Our head count was 85 sisters which is super for us. Only for the second time he also included a segment about how if his wife was a better homemaker maybe his kids wouldnt have such screwed up lives. Ere the sun goes down. Can they not celebrate their own mothers? Its hard to please everyone. I have suggested the donate-money-to-the-shelter thing for about four years now; it gets a blank stare, followed by a startled, oh! Heres my updated version: Im so glad when Daddy comes home, Elder Ballard lists three ways mothers can do that; first, is realizing joy comes in moments, second is to not overschedule children, and third, to find time to cultivate talents and interests.. If it is unique to us, I wonder why we have a corner on the Mothers Day anxiety market. Some few are probably actively trying to avoid the gifts, trying hard to not remember the lack thats been rubbed in her face all day long. Most seemed to realize bishoprics are trying and they appreciate any effort. It just screamed, whoops, we forgot to order flowers in time and ran out to walmart last night and bought up whatever womanly thing we could find. People seemed to feel good about it but Mark is right about it being a fraught day. I meant an ideal not an idea! I would say that my grandmother was like a second mother to us, but really she was like a first mother. In the UK, my experience has been that sacrament has at least one talk and often a few. Gods commands I must obey, For the third verse, I composed a counterpoint for the choir to sing while the kids sang the melody. I was honored to have known her, and to have been able to claim her as my own. Oh and starting with Anthropologist Hrdys observations on what a plane full of chimps rather than humans would look like. Our old ward in NY would take the funds normally used to purchase flowers, chocolate, etc. This post should be required reading for all Mothers Day speakers. Give the gift of time. The Primary president asked him, as Chorister, to write a new song for the kids to sing in sacrament meeting on Mother's Day. Id like to see the swords beaten into plow shares this mothers day And for once ( just once) the SAHM vs working mom verbal cat claws retracted. It seems like awareness and knowing your audience as mentioned before, is half the battle. In one of my wards, the women of the congregation were given wooden spoons as their gifts at the end of the meeting. If you want to hear about angel mothers and perfect people, remain in the chapel. (Sorry to barge in madhousewife). (If you want to see an example, search mormon tax exemption on Twitter.) I agree! Ive lived in numerous family wards, and Ive never gotten as much as a crumb for Fathers Day, at least not from church. May 2011 was the best mothers day sacrament mtg Ive ever attended. Thats the last thing a mother needs, responsibility for yet another living thing. lol! Uchtdorf. Theyre all very good, and not being critical, but Hallmark w/ scripture would seem to be one way to describe the style of Pres. Sabbath Day Scriptures Scripture References Doctrine and Covenants 59:9-12 Scripture Study Resources Topical Guide, "Assembly for Worship" Inevitably they would be instructed that the gifts were for all women, so theyd try hard to give me one. The primaries (100 of them? Just to be clear - I meant 'written/given' by women (aka musical number "O My Father" written by Eliza R Snow, conf talk by Reeve/Oscarson/Okazaki). on Mothers Day and donate it to a womens shelter. How did your Mother's Day Sacrament meeting turnout, Rockpond? They want to give a message of comfort and support to other parents who are navigating the difficult conflicts that can arise in families around this issue. She cares about your eternal safety and happiness. Get plenty HPs and Elders. And out the door I flee. Ours, like most, has its strengths and its weaknesses. I guess plants are pretty and mothers are pretty. As for me, I will be sitting this Mothers day out. Love your mother, my young sisters. By She is buried in the same plot as my great-grandmother as well so it was nice to be able to be there with them again. Variations included a verse for when mommy comes home stoned, with descriptions of bratty violent Mormon children and a terrible version only whispered with stifled giggles including titillating, lolita overtones. Weve gathered this collection to help you study, write talks, and share powerful LDS quotes about mothers. Mother's Day became the hardest day of the year for me. I have no aversion to motherhood being spoken of in church. Especially for those women that aren't mothersbut, a big but, these women are mothers to villages, pets, and extended family all the time! Im finding actual motherhood so exhausting that I just cant bear to hear about angel mothers right now. And, even worse, we are also cutting them off from the grace and redemption that Jesus offers. It was my missionary farewell, back when such things were acceptable. According to our teachings, Jesus the Messiah wasnt just sinless, He was God. At the end theyll get a rose with some message tied onto the stem with ribbon about how Jesus loves all women. Im even okay when they hand out plants. Why is that or is that just in my ward? "We express our love to those in this congregation and our prayers for the victims and their families. How about we don't celebrate either at church, but celebrate it in our homes with our mothers and fathers? For sacrament meeting, we can give the men a sternly worded warning about the danger of tehpernogriffiez. Thanks! When mothers know who they are and who God is and have made covenants with Him, they will have great power and influence for good on their children.. Great survey. Im sort of hoping that the person before me goes too long and I have to wrap up with my testimony. Beware the philosophies of Hallmark, mingled with scripture. lol. Ive endured (and thats the right word) too many Mothers Days that were awful, meaningless, and unrealistic. Because children can be wayward we should not celebrate parenthood. He suffered for the sins, sorrows, and pains of all people, providing remission of sins for those who repent and live the gospel (see 2Nephi 9:2123). To be fair, diabetics can eat chocolate. The third tells of a mother who helped her daughter with a disability at a temple dedication. When we speak of mothers as people who are incapable of gross sin, they know we are lying. I cant quite get them right and they would certainly be expunged by the moderators anyway. I agree with #15youth speaker, song and chocolate and the rest of the meeting devoted to Christ. Let us take as self-evident that, in reality, not all women are naturally pure or spiritual.
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